23: Sensory Series (2) “Picky Eater”

A “Swiss Cheese” Plant, (monstera friedrichsthalii). The plant has huge green leaves that have holes slashed through them, hence the resemblance to Swiss cheese. Text reads Sensory Series: "Picky Eater" (Quotes around Picky Eater)

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been ashamed of what I do and don’t eat. The stigma of being a “picky eater” has followed me around my whole life, bringing comments (and no small amount of exasperation) from family, friends, wait staff, and strangers alike.

Recently I’ve been examining why I struggle with certain foods and have come to the same conclusion as I have with much of my post-diagnosis self-exploration:  I’m actually incredibly strong and my experiences are real and valid.

Why am I so “picky”? Well, if you could experience my senses for a few hours, I bet you’d be more understanding, less judgmental, and I’m fairly certain you’d stop using the word “picky” pretty fast. Often times, I want desperately to like a food, to be able to order anything at random, or to just eat whatever is put in front of me without hesitation. But for me, food is almost always a relentlessly overpowering experience.

It’s not just taste that’s overwhelming–it’s texture, smell, color, consistency… What if I told you certain foods literally hurt to eat? That some trigger vivid memories that are disorientating and distressing? That some foods make me nauseous and panicky? Throw in IBS, general stomach and digestive issues, multiple food allergies and sensitivities, and it’s actually pretty impressive that I eat at all.

TASTE

I really struggle to eat bitter, sour, or spicy foods. The problem is, what you consider overwhelming is likely not what I do. Remember, all of my sensory input is dialed up and extra-sensitive. I’m not just being picky; I’m not overreacting. I really am experiencing things more intensely than most people. What you might find pleasant with just a hint of a kick might feel like an absolute assault on my senses.

Another factor is that sometimes my sensory input seems to go haywire somehow and, for example, a bitter taste might register just like bile to me. No one else eating the same dish is having the problem, but I literally cannot eat another bite because it legitimately reminds me of throwing up.

TEXTURE

Texture is a huge factor as well. Texture no-go’s for me include: peaches, coleslaw, celery, Japanese konyaku, warm peanut butter, etc. I can’t really explain why some of these things are difficult for me, but the sensation can be so uncomfortable that my jaw locks up. This can be a full-body experience, causing pain, discomfort, chills, headaches, and tics if I’m required to eat something for whatever reason.

TOO MANY TASTES AT ONCE

Even if I like certain tastes, too many at once is also overwhelming. There are not many meals I order out that don’t include me saying, “I’d like the (meal), but without (list of ingredients). So basically just the (stuff I still want).” The things I take off make the difference between me being physically able to eat the dish and literally not being able to eat it without melting down or extreme distress.

IN CONCLUSION

I debated making a list of all the foods I struggle to eat, but decided against it. Maybe some day I will, but for now, I still struggle with embarrassment from a lifetime of stigma related to what’s difficult or painful for me to eat and I’ve decided to focus elsewhere.

I’m currently on a journey of self-acceptance and I’m finding it more productive to focus on my “Can Do” list than my “Can’t Do” list. I’ve come a long way in trying new foods, and I’m working on becoming more accepting that 1) I function differently and it’s okay not to eat foods that are difficult and 2) it’s actually impressive what I do eat and I should give myself more credit.


BONUS:

STIMMING THROUGH FOOD

While tracking what foods are difficult for me to eat, which I refuse to eat, and which I love to eat, I noticed that I draw on certain foods as a massive comfort; I actually stim by eating these foods, usually in a ritualistic manner. They include foods like applesauce, crackers, pretzels, oatmeal… notice a pattern? When I’m exhausted or overloaded, I can’t deal with any intense or unpleasant colors, smells, textures, or tastes. Eating these familiar, bland foods is a source of comfort and helps me calm down. Now that I have identified that I am stimming through food, I have consciously begun working on stimming in other more healthy ways (allowing myself to rock, hand flapping, touching soft things, listening to a song on loop, etc.) to try to avoid stimming through binge-eating. (See 25: I have an eating disorder. for more on that.)

Click here Sensory Series Part 1, 16: Sensory Series (1) Auditory.

 

[image description: A “Swiss Cheese” Plant, (monstera friedrichsthalii). The plant has huge green leaves that have holes slashed through them, hence the resemblance to Swiss cheese.]

8 thoughts on “23: Sensory Series (2) “Picky Eater””

  1. “Recently I’ve been examining why I struggle with certain foods and have come to the same conclusion as I have with much of my post-diagnosis self-exploration: I’m actually incredibly strong and my experiences are real and valid.”

    Yes! Exactly the same for me- diagnosed with autism as an adult, and I’ve been looking at all my childhood experiences with sensory pain in a totally different light. (I don’t have many problems with food though, I have different sensory problems.) I used to pretty much just think I was pathetic because I couldn’t tolerate things that everyone else was fine with. Now I see that actually I experience sensory input in a different way than other people and actually it’s amazing how strong I’ve been dealing with that for my whole life.

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    1. I’m experiencing similar realizations! Especially how I process pain and discomfort from hunger, fatigue, nausea, etc.

      I’ve always thought I was weak and kind of pathetic. Now I’m realizing I’m actually incredibly strong.

      Thank you for your comment. It’s so nice to know I’m not alone!

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